Berry’s Blog

  This weekend marks my parents twenty-eighth wedding anniversary. This got me thinking the ways that wedding have changed over the years. With the advent of social media wedding have become more of a comedy. For example, at my parents wedding all the photos were low quality and all of them now exist in a large photo book that gets pulled out once a year. Nowadays many couples seem to try and use their wedding for attention on social media. So many times I see some random wedding video come up and its like I don’t really care. This has historically been a pretty special day but it has been degraded as so many people only want the clout. This has become so normal that according to Sherry Gaba who is a writer and a licensed relationship therapist, 68 percent of younger couples will post about their engagement within one day of the engagement. Similar numbers were also seen to post about their wedding day. With divorce rates rising steadily, the question must be asked why are people n...

I disagree with the notion Deborah Tannen put forth in the short essay “There is No Unmarked Woman” that women tend to be more marked than men. The only difference is the way that men and women tend to be marked. As Tannen described, women tend to be more focused on the physical aspects of being marked. Tannen describes herself closely inspecting other women at a conference that she went to. This demonstrates that women tend to value the physical more than men, but that does not mean that men are marked any less. For example, take collage and professional sports. Men overwhelmingly mark themselves as a fan of certain sports franchises. However, this is slightly harder to spot than the clothes and makeup that women tend to wear which leads to the perception that women are more marked than men. There are also many other ways that men are marked that can be slightly harder to see. For example, the amount of money that a man makes automatically marks him and determines many of his future o...